For a long time, I believed regulation was something I needed to reach: A calm nervous system, a steady inner state, a feeling that I was finally “doing it right”, the feeling that I was liked by all. But life, and the ocean taught me otherwise. If you have ever stood at the edge of the sea, you already know this: The water is never still for long. Waves rise, crash, settle, and move again. Our nervous system works the same way - by design, it was never meant to be in a state

Defensiveness is not a flaw. It is not a sign that you are closed off, immature, or unwilling to grow. It is something much more human than that. Defensiveness begins in the brain, long before logic or language get involved. When we feel criticized, misunderstood, judged, or even subtly unsafe, a very old part of the brain steps in to protect us. The brain’s job is survival. It is constantly scanning for threat, and threat does not have to mean physical danger. Emotional thre

Let’s look at my foundational tool, The 7 Bodies Method. This tool explains that each of us have 7 bodies, being our physical body, our thinking mind, our emotions, our energy, our spirit, our soul and our intellect - which is our ability to learn. Now with this in mind, having 7 parts, each with it’s organic make-up, how is it possible that we could follow a step by step process in order to achieve our goals of healing or enlightenment or peace or whatever it is we are afte

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